Dealing With the Loss of a Loved One
By Fayeque Mir: May 8, 2025
We admit it. This is no easy topic.
You might have searched up the title of this post on your device while coming to terms with the staggering loss you have just faced, a wound that has just formed. Or maybe its not like that. Maybe its been years since you lost that loved one and still, its hard not to shed a tear in private or feel sad while sitting alone.
This post is no magic formula to making you feel 100% perfect, no. This post is about moving in the right direction.
Without further intro, Life Advice presents techniques for dealing with the loss of a loved one.
Reflect on Your blessings
Every day is a new dawn.
Every day may seem like agony without a loved one, but it is a new dawn. Whether or not you realize, the fact that you have this new dawn is a big blessing, agony or not.
You have the ability to see if you can read this post, and you have access to the internet as well as a functioning device. All of these are reasons to be thankful. No one is arguing that by acknowledging these blessings the pain of loss will disappear, but it will make you reflect, and understand that life still has purpose, it still has meaning.
By reflecting on your blessings, you can not only increase your mental health, which in turn can help you deal with loss, you will also become more productive. You’ll start to think “Hey, I can see, I have an internet connection, how about I start a website or online community helping people who are facing similar loss in my area?”.
This productive attitude, which is fostered by reflecting on the numerous blessings you and I take for granted daily, can not only get us moving in the right direction, but help others too and make a positive impact on society.
Get Outside and active
First and foremost, loss affects our mental health significantly. It makes you stuck in that same loop of feeling sad and down about the passing of your loved one.
Getting outside and getting active are ways to improve mental health, fitness, and are a productive use of time. It’s hard to think about feeling down when you feel the burn of doing the plank for a minute or the fatigue in your muscles after doing 10 push-ups. It’s hard to think about feeling down when you admire the nature around you that you never knew existed, when you feel a nice cool breeze on your skin.
Maybe you don’t have the energy to do so, maybe grief has paralyzed you. But no more, with the willpower you can instill in yourself, you can get up to go outside and be active. You’re promised that if you take the leap, if you try your best to break out of this paralyzing grief cycle, you will reap major rewards you’ll thank yourself for later.
Do what you love
Doing what you love does not mean getting as drunk as possible and then passing out as a means of trying to avoid the grief brought on by loss.
Doing what you love means making a conscious effort to do healthy activities that you enjoy in order to come to terms with the loss while also giving yourself some much needed happiness.
The key to this technique is to not engage in harmful activities like drugs, alcohol and gambling as these are just ways to avoid grief, not to deal with it.
Some things you could try could be playing a board game, hanging out with friends or family, gardening, reading, taking a nice walk, or going on a short trip or vacation. Whatever works best for you.
It definitely won’t be easy to break out of the grief cycle and take a step towards doing something fun and helpful, but it’s a great way to deal with loss once done.
Practice Hopefullness and positivity
This is easier said than done. It isn’t easy to be hopeful when life seems so bleak.
Abraham Lincoln said “Most Folks Are About As Happy As They Make Up Their Minds To Be“. And that seems about true.
Why? Because there are people around the world right now that have had their whole families murdered, their homes and businesses destroyed, and their limbs ruined but still manage to put a smile on their face every day and have faith and hope in a better future. You can too.
Postivity isn’t just an attitude, it’s a lifestyle, and a surprisngly easy one to attain as well. All it takes is to look to someone who has lost more than you, and see the smile on their face, and to realize that your life may not be the worst one out there after all.
Having hope in a better future stems from the idea that life has ups and downs. Loss of a loved one is a huge down, but there will be ups as well, that is guarunteed.
Conclusion
You should read the 4 Quick Tips to Improve Your Mental Health series’ parts one and two if you need more tips to help you during this difficult time.
As stated before, this post is no magic formula. It’s possible that none of what was discussed in this post helped you one bit, but Life Advice is just trying to do its part in making sure you are offered the best advice.
As always stay strong, follow these tips, and I know that moving in the right direction is an option.
